My Tips For Teens

This is my number one tip because it is the one that I used to struggle with the most. You see, I have always been that one kid who doesn't fit in growing up. I always tried so hard to fit in, to be liked by the cool kids. It took me 14 years to realize that being cool is not what life is about. Once you get older,  name brands and who is prettier will not matter! Take pride in your flaws! I mean look at me, I'm practically the most awkward teen ever, but I still get by! If everyone was meant to look the same and act the same, imagine the world! It would be like Abnegation around here. Find what makes you happy, not what makes them happy. Hell, get a blog if you want! Find what shows who you are, whether it be reading, writing, traveling, art, pets... the possibilities are endless!

 

Take This Challenge: Try something new each day! You may find your new passion!

(new food, new outfit, new hairstyle, new approach to something...)

This one is a hard one for me to give as a tip for you all because I used to and still do battle this one daily. Being a teen today is very difficult. When I was younger, I thought I would never be like how I am today. I thought I would be happy, and have friends, but that's not me anymore. I have seen a lot of teens hate themselves so much that the only way they can live with themselves is to cut themselves, or dig themselves under the comfort of drugs, sex, and alcohol.  They look in the mirror only to find what disgusts them the most looking back at them. It is so hard when the internet is also in play. I do not have a lot of social media mainly because I know that most of the things I will see will dig me under into self hate. Try this out. Stop thinking about yourself! Thinking about yourself all the time and how you hate yourself will only make it worse. Try helping others out. Volunteer at soup kitchens and retirement homes. Make cards for Veterans. Do whatever you can to get over yourself! Instead of thinking about what you hate, force yourself to write down three things you are thankful for each day!

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I used to have a Pinterest, and I would constantly get on it whenever I could. This was fine at first, until a lot of Tumblr pictures would come across my feed. These pictures were of girls that were so perfect. They had perfect teeth, hair, eyes, clothes, and this tore at me. Now for a while before this, I saw the dumb thigh gap trend going around. At first I thought it was absolutely ridiculous. The thigh gap is only caused because of the wideness of your hips! But after a while, I started hating myself. It is a hard thing when all you see is perfect people, then there's you. My parents noticed that this was affecting me, so Pinterest was taken away for a while. This actually helped me! If you struggle with not loving yourself, take away all of the distractions for a little while. You might see great results! Remember, the world is one giant puzzle. It wouldn't be complete without you.

 

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How old are you? Well did you know that the average American life expectancy is about 80 years? All the time, I see girls ready to pursue love at such a young age. I mean, since I was 5 years old, I wanted to be a princess, and have the most cutest prince. But why is it so normal for early tweens and teens to already pursue love? I am not bashing you if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and are young, but what about the rest of the world? I think growing up should be an experience of yourself. You are discovering who you are, who you want to be, what you want to do. So why let some boy get in between you and your dreams? Explore the world, meet new people, discover different cultures and ways of life! I had this conversation with my stepmom and she said, "Surround yourself with friends. Not boyfriends and girlfriends, but true friends. Go on adventures with each other, watch life pass around you. Then when you are ready to love, chances are, the person you are destined to be with is right there beside you."

 

 

You may be thinking about now... "Oh God no, not this talk again..." Well don't worry. I'm not here to chat about Jesus. You may not be the type of person that cares at all about religion. That's perfectly fine. But when you are discovering who you are, you may want to try out religion! Maybe your puzzle is almost finished, but there is still one piece missing. Find who you are and don't care about what people think. What works for me, may not work for you. Whether it be Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, find what you feel is right for you.

 

That is all for my tips today! Would any of you like an advice column maybe? Comment below :3